Hi, I was just your typical 19 year old Seminary girl in South Jersey (if you don't know where I mean, you are probably on the wrong blog). We all have nisoynos, challenges, and experiences, both positive and negative. Here is where I have decided to share some of them.

Location: Lakewood, New Jersey, United States

Tuesday, January 16, 2007

A Rebuttal

Since I have been receiving some flak about the last few negative posts I've written. I have decided to open my blog to guest writers.. Here is the first of them from a loyal reader who has been here since I started the blog..

I would like to thank Mrs. SemGirl, for allowing me to be a guest blogger, I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you would write too.When I was asked to write a post- I was told "We all enjoy 'feel good' pieces but if it is all Lakewood is perfect then, send it to the "The Voice of Lakewood""

Well I think I spelled it out. Lakewood is a town with many different types of people. You have Chasidish, Black hatters, yeshivish, Sefardim, "regular people", modern people and all the others that fit somewhere in between. Its a community like all others. Whatever type one may be if you fit in, or find your groove you'll look from the inside out and look and the good.

Rabbi Forcheimer gave a speech a half a year ago about Tznius, everyone (at least in blog world) was up in arms. He's being too Makpid, you can't drop off your husband by yeshiva, "just in case" a bochur sees your wife with a snood up to her eyes. Or maybe a under privileged husband may see some pretty lady changing seats and may be jealous.While all this sounds crazy and very far fetched, if Rabbi Forcheimer is saying it, there must be some basis to it. Where there is smoke there is fire.Why not instead of ridiculing his speech, try to understand what the problem is. How hard is it for the wife to be driving and not have to switch seats. Or how hard is it for the wife to hold back blowing a kiss to her hubby that she will miss for 3 hours??There are issues all over.

But let's find the positive. (if I want I can probably list over 100 problems with Lakewood or any other community)Let's look at the chesed done in the community- Hatzalah, Bikur Cholim, Tomchai Shabbos, bonei Olam, and Chaverim.Those are all volunteers sacrifice all there personal time (also their families) for the tzibur. Where do we find such a thing??Let's look at the positive.


Blogger Elisheva said...

preach it girl!

1/16/2007 10:05 AM  
Blogger Limey2001 said...

always nice to hear the good but semgirls point has always been "we know it is a good place lets just make it perfect....."

1/16/2007 10:28 AM  
Blogger Independent Frum Thinker said...

It is extremely important to never lose sight of the good. However, self-improvement can only come with focusing on the small faults.
If one’s intention is to complain, then the obvious answer to such a person is to focus on the good. But if one’s intention is to seek even more good, there is nothing wrong with pointing out areas that could use improvement.
I have to admit that some posts on this blog sounded more like complaining than a quest for self-improvement. Hence, I understand the point of whoever wrote the rebuttal.
No offense intended. Just my honest thoughts.

1/17/2007 12:54 AM  
Blogger Hasid_Letz said...

"However, self-improvement can only come with focusing on the small faults"

and the big ones


1/17/2007 9:32 AM  
Blogger nuch a chosid said...

Finally... a long due positive post on torah town usa

or maybe this post was post in here by mistake it was not intended for this blog.

come on, Semgirl, we know u enjoy to kvetch about Lakevood, that's what this blog is all about, but you know it yourself, there are so many good things to write about, and you don't, you only give us a partial look into lakewood.

If you want to be ralistic, and fair, you need to balance it, gal. this post was a good start.


1/17/2007 3:01 PM  
Blogger tuesdaywishes said...

I'm glad you are able to see the positive of your community. However, Semgirl's quotes about wives no longer dropping husbands outside the yeshiva, not to mention seperate sex shopping and all of the rest, lead me to think that Lakewood has become a little too misogynistic. If a guy finds seeing women, even modestly dressed women with whom he has no interaction, too much of a distraction from his learning, then I think the problem is with HIM. Keeping women away from the yeshiva building is just another example of this entitlement, this sense that a learning yungerman deserves to have everything else done for him. Are they next going to ban birds because some guys might rather watch pigeons on the windowsill than follow the Gemara? No one said the learning life was easy. If a man can't keep his focus, maybe he shouldn't be learning full-time. Maybe he needs to get a job. Not getting paid if you don't do your work can be a great motivator to stay focussed.

1/18/2007 3:28 PM  
Blogger Lakewood Venter said...

Ok, time to return to the regularly scheduled programming..... lol

1/20/2007 9:08 PM  
Blogger Semgirl said...

Agreed LV...its all written up just waiting to type it in when all the regulars go back to work monday, lol...

1/20/2007 9:14 PM  
Blogger A Heimishe said...

I usually hear only bad things from Lakewood, you SHOULD write more positives.. it's good for your health too :)

Talking about the volunteers my father was a Hatzalah volunteer and it was hard on our family when he took off in the middle of a Shabbos meal not to mention Pesach in the middle of the Seder and we were all (large family) sitting around waiting for our father to return from the Hatzalah call.

1/21/2007 1:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Letz - LOL!! Well said.

1/23/2007 2:39 PM  

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